As we dive into this new school year, I’ll be sharing weekly tips on my social media channels and in my newsletter to help you support your teen through it all. Here’s a look at some key strategies you can start using today!
How to Help Your Teen Start the School Year Strong: Key Strategies for Success
As the new school year begins, many teens face a mix of excitement and anxiety. Academic pressures, social challenges, and managing new responsibilities can be overwhelming, making it tough for teens to thrive right from the start. As parents, we naturally want to help, but knowing how to offer support—especially when life is busy or our teens seem resistant—can feel like a challenge.
In this blog post, I’m sharing a few actionable strategies to help you set your teen up for a successful school year. These approaches are designed to help them build confidence, manage stress, and stay motivated, all while giving you peace of mind that you’re doing what you can to support them.
1. Collaborate on Creating a Routine That Balances School, Activities, and Downtime
One of the most effective ways to help your teen start the school year strong is to involve them in building a daily routine. This goes beyond just academics—it’s about finding a balance that includes schoolwork, extracurricular activities, social time, and downtime.
Example: Building a Custom Routine
For example, you and your teen could sit down at the end of each week to review their week ahead. Ask questions like, “What’s your most important task this week?” or “When would you like some downtime?” This helps teens think through their commitments and how they want to structure their time.
When teens have a say in their routine, they’re more likely to stick with it. A collaborative approach helps them feel empowered, and the structure reduces overwhelm. You can also revisit the routine regularly to adjust as needed.
2. Set Small Goals to Boost Teen Confidence and Success
Success breeds confidence. Encourage your teen to set small, manageable goals for the first few weeks of school. These goals could be as simple as completing homework on time, making a new friend, or participating in a class discussion.
Example: Building Small Wins
For example, if your teen is hesitant about participating in class discussions, help them set a goal like, “This week, I’ll raise my hand once during English class.” The following week, they could aim to do the same in two classes. Gradual progress builds confidence and momentum, showing them that small steps lead to big changes.
By starting with small wins, teens gain a sense of accomplishment and control. Modelling goal-setting by sharing your own small, achievable goals with them can also demonstrates how it works in action.
3. Encourage a Growth Mindset to Help Teens Overcome Challenges
Research shows that teens with a growth mindset—the belief that intelligence and abilities can develop with effort—are better equipped to handle academic and social challenges. This mindset helps teens view setbacks as learning opportunities, which reduces stress and anxiety.
One study even found that teens who adopted a growth mindset experienced significant improvements in psychological well-being, academic success, and stress management.
Example: Teaching a Growth Mindset
To encourage a growth mindset, remind your teen that mistakes are a natural part of learning. If they get a lower grade than they expected on a test, ask them to reflect on what they could have done differently or what they can learn from the experience, rather than focusing solely on the grade. Help them understand that their efforts can lead to improvement over time.
Modelling a growth mindset in your own life can also make a big difference. If you face a challenge, share how you’re approaching it with a learning mindset, and invite your teen to reflect on how they can do the same.
4. Foster Independence by Encouraging Responsibility
Helping teens take ownership of their responsibilities is a key step in preparing them for a successful school year. Whether it’s managing homework, organizing their schedule, or packing their school bag, independence fosters a sense of accomplishment and prepares them for future challenges.
Example: Balancing Support and Independence
Instead of constantly reminding your teen to do their homework, consider having a conversation about how they can stay organized on their own. You could help them set up a planner or use an app to track assignments. Once the system is in place, step back and let them take ownership.
Supporting independence doesn’t mean stepping back entirely. It’s about striking a balance between providing guidance and letting them navigate on their own. When teens feel in control of their workload, they’re more likely to stay motivated and confident.
5. Model Healthy Stress Management to Show Teens How to Cope
Teens often mirror how their parents handle stress. One of the best ways to support your teen is by modelling healthy stress-management techniques. Research shows that stress doesn’t always have to be negative—teens can learn to channel it into productivity by adopting a stress-can-be-enhancing mindset.
Example: Modelling Stress Management
Show your teen how you manage stress in healthy ways. For instance, if you’ve had a stressful day at work, let them see you go for a walk, practice mindfulness, or engage in physical activity. You can even discuss how the stress you’re feeling is motivating you to perform at your best.
By showing your teen that stress can be managed effectively, they’ll be more likely to handle their own stress in a healthy way. Encourage techniques like deep breathing, mindfulness, or taking short breaks between study sessions.
6. Keep the Lines of Communication Open to Build Trust
Finally, one of the most important things you can do as a parent is to ensure that your teen knows you’re there for them. Open communication builds trust and helps teens feel safe when expressing their feelings or concerns.
Example: Creating a Safe Space for Conversations
Let your teen know that you’re available whenever they need to talk—without judgment. Avoid forcing conversations when they’re not ready; instead, create an environment where they feel comfortable coming to you on their own terms.
Sometimes, teens don’t need a solution right away. They just need to be heard. By offering a listening ear, you’re creating a safe space for them to express themselves.
Final Thoughts: Set Your Teen Up for Success This School Year
Navigating the school year can be tough for both teens and parents. By taking steps like creating routines, setting small goals, encouraging a growth mindset, promoting independence, modelling stress management, and keeping the lines of communication open, you’ll help your teen start the school year strong.
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Let’s work together to ensure this school year is one of growth, resilience, and success for your teen.
References
Jamieson, J.P. “Stress Responses and Academic Success in Adolescents.” University of Rochester, 2022.
Ku, Y. R., & Stager, C. (2022). Rethinking the Multidimensionality of Growth Mindset Amid the COVID-19 Pandemic: A Systematic Review and Framework Proposal. Frontiers in psychology, 13, 572220.
Yeager, D.S., Bryan, C.J., Gross, J.J., et al. “A Synergistic Mindsets Intervention Protects Adolescents from Stress.” Nature, 2022.
Yeager, D. S., et al. (2019). A national experiment reveals where a growth mindset improves achievement. Nature, 573(7774), 364–369.
